Daily Productive Sharing 200 - Unsolicited Advice by Kevin Kelly

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著名科技作者 Kevin Kelly 刚刚度过了69周岁生日，如同前一年的生日，他又一次带来了自己 unsolicited advice。今年他总结了99条，每一条都简洁由深含哲理。比如：

• 在你的葬礼上，人们不会记得你做了什么；他们只会记得你给他们的感受。

• 成功的秘诀：承诺不足，交付有余。

• 成熟的基础：不是你的错并不意味着它不是你的责任。

• 睿智意味着问题多于答案。

• 大多数一夜之间的成功--事实上任何重大的成功--至少需要五年时间。

• 要想成为富人，就要积累所有那些钱买不到的东西。

• 当与他人进行头脑风暴、即兴创作或者即兴表演时，如果你用 "是--而且 "的例子，而不是 "不--但是 "的回答，你会走得更远。

• 不要借钱给朋友，除非你准备好把它作为礼物。

• 如果你不知道自己迫切需要什么，那最有可能的就是睡眠。

• 如果你借了什么东西，试着以比你收到的更好的状态归还它。

• 要让人群或醉汉安静下来，只需轻声细语。

• 每天写下一件你感激的事是最便宜的治疗方法。

• 钱是被高估的。真正的新事物很少需要大量的钱。如果是这样的话，亿万富翁就会垄断新事物的发明，但他们并没有。相反，几乎所有的突破都是由那些缺乏金钱的人完成的，因为他们被迫依靠自己的激情、毅力和聪明才智来找出新的方法。贫穷是创新中的一个优势。

• 坏事可能发生得很快，但几乎所有的好事都会慢慢发生。

• 不要担心你如何或从哪里开始。只要你继续前进，你的成功会离你的起点很远。

• 如果你的目标没有时间表，它就是一个白日梦。

• 我从来没有见过一个我敬佩的人比我读书少。

• 任何事情都是先难后易。在某件事情取得突破的前一天，它可能只是在别人看来一个愚蠢的想法。

• 当你被手中的事卡住，就去睡觉吧。让你的潜意识为你工作。

• 你的工作将是无止境的，但你的时间是有限的。你不能限制工作，所以你必须限制你的时间。时间是你唯一可以管理的东西。

• 要想成功，让别人给你钱；要想致富，帮助别人成功。

• 这是有史以来做事情的最好时机。20年后最伟大、最酷的创造都还没有被发明出来。你并没有迟到。

• 在所有事情上都要节俭，除了激情上，你可以大肆挥霍。

• 对你的孩子好一点，因为他们会选择你的养老院。

• 学习如何从那些不同意你的，甚至是冒犯你的人身上学习。看看你是否能从他们的见解中找到真理。

• 不要害怕问一个可能听起来很愚蠢的问题，因为99%的时候其他人都在想同样的问题，但却不好意思问。

• 请人吃饭永远不会失败，而且很容易做到。

• 专业人士开始也只是业余人士，他们只是知道如何从错误中总结教训。

• 不要成为房间里最聪明的人。和比自己聪明的人一起玩，并向他们学习。甚至更好的是，找到那些会与你意见相左的聪明人。

• 每个人都很害羞。其他人在等待你向他们介绍自己，他们在等待你向他们发送电子邮件，他们在等待你邀请他们约会。去吧。

• 当有人拒绝你时，不要太在意。假设他们和你一样：忙，被占用，分心。以后再试。令人惊讶的是，第二次尝试往往会成功。

• 守时是尊重的体现。

• 当你年轻的时候，至少花6个月到1年的时间，尽可能地过着贫穷的生活，尽可能少地拥有自己的东西，在一个小房间或帐篷里吃豆子和米饭，以体验你 "最糟糕 "的生活方式可能是什么。这样一来，当你将来要冒什么风险时，你就不会害怕最坏的情况了。

• 如果你在家里找东西，最后找到了，当你用完后，不要把它放回你找到它的地方。把它放回你第一次寻找它的地方。

• 存钱和投资都是好习惯。几十年来不加思索地定期投资少量的钱是通向富有的一条道路。

• 你可以执着于服务你的客户，或者你可以执着于击败竞争对手。两者都有效，不过执着于服务你的客户会让你走得更远。

• 也许宇宙中最反直觉的真理是，你给别人的越多，你得到的就越多。

• 朋友比金钱更好。几乎所有金钱能做的事，朋友都能做得更好。在许多方面，有船的朋友比拥有一艘船要好。

• 当你死的时候，除了你的声誉，你完全没有带走任何东西。

• 你每花一美元购买一件实质性的东西，都要在其生命结束时支付一美元用于维修、保养或报废。

• 当你收到在未来做某事的邀请时，问问自己：如果它被安排在明天，你会接受吗？没有太多的承诺会通过这种即时性的过滤。

• 不要在电子邮件中说任何你不愿意直接对他们说的关于某人的事情，因为最终他们会读到它。

• 如果你迫切需要一份工作，你只是老板的另一个问题；如果你能解决老板现在的许多问题，你就被雇用了。要想被雇用，就要像你的老板那样思考。

• 如何道歉：迅速、具体、真诚。

• 经验是被高估的。在招聘的时候，要为能力而招聘，为技能而培训。大多数真正惊人或伟大的事情都是由第一次做这些事情的人完成的。

• 以上建议不是法律。它们就像帽子。如果一个不合适，可以尝试另一个。

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• That thing that made you weird as a kid could make you great as an adult — if you don’t lose it.

• What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals. At your funeral people will not recall what you did; they will only remember how you made them feel.

• Recipe for success: under-promise and over-deliver.

• If someone is trying to convince you it’s not a pyramid scheme, it’s a pyramid scheme.

• In all things — except love — start with the exit strategy. Prepare for the ending. Almost anything is easier to get into than out of.Don’t create things to make money; make money so you can create things. The reward for good work is more work.

• Train employees well enough they could get another job, but treat them well enough so they never want to.

• The foundation of maturity: Just because it’s not your fault doesn’t mean it’s not your responsibility.

• Being wise means having more questions than answers.

• Most overnight successes — in fact any significant successes — take at least 5 years. Budget your life accordingly.

• Be strict with yourself and forgiving of others. The reverse is hell for everyone.

• The worst evils in history have always been committed by those who truly believed they were combating evil. Beware of combating evil.

• If you can avoid seeking approval of others, your power is limitless.

• When a child asks an endless string of “why?” questions, the smartest reply is, “I don’t know, what do you think?”

• To be wealthy, accumulate all those things that money can’t buy.

• When brainstorming, improvising, jamming with others, you’ll go much further and deeper if you build upon each contribution with a playful “yes — and” example instead of a deflating “no — but” reply.

• Don’t loan money to a friend unless you are ready to make it a gift.

• Your passion in life should fit you exactly; but your purpose in life should exceed you. Work for something much larger than yourself.

• If you can’t tell what you desperately need, it’s probably sleep.

• If you borrow something, try to return it in better shape than you received it. Clean it, sharpen it, fill it up.

• Even in the tropics it gets colder at night than you think. Pack warmly.

• To quiet a crowd or a drunk, just whisper.

• Writing down one thing you are grateful for each day is the cheapest possible therapy ever.

• Money is overrated. Truly new things rarely need an abundance of money. If that was so, billionaires would have a monopoly on inventing new things, and they don’t. Instead almost all breakthroughs are made by those who lack money, because they are forced to rely on their passion, persistence and ingenuity to figure out new ways. Being poor is an advantage in innovation.

• You are given the gift of life in order to discover what your gift *in* life is. You will complete your mission when you figure out what your mission is. This is not a paradox. This is the way.

• Don’t treat people as bad as they are. Treat them as good as you are.

• Each time you reach out to people, bring them a blessing; then they’ll be happy to see you when you bring them a problem.

• Bad things can happen fast, but almost all good things happen slowly.

• Don’t worry how or where you begin. As long as you keep moving, your success will be far from where you start.

• You can reduce the annoyance of someone’s stupid belief by increasing your understanding of why they believe it.

• If your goal does not have a schedule, it is a dream.

• The greatest breakthroughs are missed because they look like hard work.

• I have never met a person I admired who did not read more books than I did.

• Everything is hard before it is easy. The day before something is a breakthrough, it’s a stupid idea.

• When you are stuck, sleep on it. Let your subconscious work for you.

• Your work will be endless, but your time is finite. You cannot limit the work so you must limit your time. Hours are the only thing you can manage.

• To succeed, get other people to pay you; to become wealthy, help other people to succeed.

• This is the best time ever to make something. None of the greatest, coolest creations 20 years from now have been invented yet. You are not late.

• Always give credit, take blame.

• Be frugal in all things, except in your passions splurge.

• The extras serve as backups for mistakes, reduce stress, and fill your inventory for the future. They are the cheapest insurance.

• Be nice to your children because they are going to choose your nursing home.

• Advice like these are not laws. They are like hats. If one doesn’t fit, try another.

• Learn how to learn from those you disagree with, or even offend you. See if you can find the truth in what they believe.

• Being enthusiastic is worth 25 IQ points.

• Always demand a deadline. A deadline weeds out the extraneous and the ordinary. It prevents you from trying to make it perfect, so you have to make it different. Different is better.

• Don’t be afraid to ask a question that may sound stupid because 99% of the time everyone else is thinking of the same question and is too embarrassed to ask it.

• Treating a person to a meal never fails, and is so easy to do. It’s powerful with old friends and a great way to make new friends.

• Pros are just amateurs who know how to gracefully recover from their mistakes.

• Don’t be the smartest person in the room. Hangout with, and learn from, people smarter than yourself. Even better, find smart people who will disagree with you.

• Rule of 3 in conversation. To get to the real reason, ask a person to go deeper than what they just said. Then again, and once more. The third time’s answer is close to the truth.

• Everyone is shy. Other people are waiting for you to introduce yourself to them, they are waiting for you to send them an email, they are waiting for you to ask them on a date. Go ahead.

• Don’t take it personally when someone turns you down. Assume they are like you: busy, occupied, distracted. Try again later. It’s amazing how often a second try works.

• Promptness is a sign of respect.

• When you are young spend at least 6 months to one year living as poor as you can, owning as little as you possibly can, eating beans and rice in a tiny room or tent, to experience what your “worst” lifestyle might be. That way any time you have to risk something in the future you won’t be afraid of the worst case scenario.

• Optimize your generosity. No one on their deathbed has ever regretted giving too much away.

• To make something good, just do it. To make something great, just re-do it, re-do it, re-do it. The secret to making fine things is in remaking them.

• If you are looking for something in your house, and you finally find it, when you’re done with it, don’t put it back where you found it. Put it back where you first looked for it.

• Saving money and investing money are both good habits. Small amounts of money invested regularly for many decades without deliberation is one path to wealth.

• You can obsess about serving your customers/audience/clients, or you can obsess about beating the competition. Both work, but of the two, obsessing about your customers will take you further.

• Perhaps the most counter-intuitive truth of the universe is that the more you give to others, the more you’ll get. Understanding this is the beginning of wisdom.

• Friends are better than money. Almost anything money can do, friends can do better. In so many ways a friend with a boat is better than owning a boat.

• Be prepared: When you are 90% done any large project (a house, a film, an event, an app) the rest of the myriad details will take a second 90% to complete.

• When you die you take absolutely nothing with you except your reputation.

• For every dollar you spend purchasing something substantial, expect to pay a dollar in repairs, maintenance, or disposal by the end of its life.

• When you get an invitation to do something in the future, ask yourself: would you accept this if it was scheduled for tomorrow? Not too many promises will pass that immediacy filter.

• Don’t say anything about someone in email you would not be comfortable saying to them directly, because eventually they will read it.

• If you desperately need a job, you are just another problem for a boss; if you can solve many of the problems the boss has right now, you are hired. To be hired, think like your boss.

• Acquiring things will rarely bring you deep satisfaction. But acquiring experiences will.

• Rule of 7 in research. You can find out anything if you are willing to go seven levels. If the first source you ask doesn’t know, ask them who you should ask next, and so on down the line. If you are willing to go to the 7th source, you’ll almost always get your answer.

• How to apologize: Quickly, specifically, sincerely.

• When someone is nasty, rude, hateful, or mean with you, pretend they have a disease. That makes it easier to have empathy toward them which can soften the conflict.

• Experience is overrated. When hiring, hire for aptitude, train for skills. Most really amazing or great things are done by people doing them for the first time.

• A vacation + a disaster = an adventure.

• Buying tools: Start by buying the absolute cheapest tools you can find. Upgrade the ones you use a lot. If you wind up using some tool for a job, buy the very best you can afford.

• Following your bliss is a recipe for paralysis if you don’t know what you are passionate about. A better motto for most youth is “master something, anything”. Through mastery of one thing, you can drift towards extensions of that mastery that bring you more joy, and eventually discover where your bliss is.