Daily Productive Sharing 200 - Unsolicited Advice by Kevin Kelly
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(The English version follows)
著名科技作者 Kevin Kelly 刚刚度过了69周岁生日，如同前一年的生日，他又一次带来了自己 unsolicited advice。今年他总结了99条，每一条都简洁由深含哲理。比如：
当与他人进行头脑风暴、即兴创作或者即兴表演时，如果你用 "是--而且 "的例子，而不是 "不--但是 "的回答，你会走得更远。
当你年轻的时候，至少花6个月到1年的时间，尽可能地过着贫穷的生活，尽可能少地拥有自己的东西，在一个小房间或帐篷里吃豆子和米饭，以体验你 "最糟糕 "的生活方式可能是什么。这样一来，当你将来要冒什么风险时，你就不会害怕最坏的情况了。
99 Additional Bits of Unsolicited Advice
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Kevin Kelly, the famous technology author, has just celebrated his 69th birthday, and as in the previous year, he has once again brought his unsolicited advice. This year he has summarized 99 pieces, each of which is concise and philosophical.
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99 Additional Bits of Unsolicited Advice
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That thing that made you weird as a kid could make you great as an adult — if you don’t lose it.
What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals. At your funeral people will not recall what you did; they will only remember how you made them feel.
Recipe for success: under-promise and over-deliver.
If someone is trying to convince you it’s not a pyramid scheme, it’s a pyramid scheme.
In all things — except love — start with the exit strategy. Prepare for the ending. Almost anything is easier to get into than out of.Don’t create things to make money; make money so you can create things. The reward for good work is more work.
Train employees well enough they could get another job, but treat them well enough so they never want to.
The foundation of maturity: Just because it’s not your fault doesn’t mean it’s not your responsibility.
Being wise means having more questions than answers.
Most overnight successes — in fact any significant successes — take at least 5 years. Budget your life accordingly.
Be strict with yourself and forgiving of others. The reverse is hell for everyone.
The worst evils in history have always been committed by those who truly believed they were combating evil. Beware of combating evil.
If you can avoid seeking approval of others, your power is limitless.
When a child asks an endless string of “why?” questions, the smartest reply is, “I don’t know, what do you think?”
To be wealthy, accumulate all those things that money can’t buy.
When brainstorming, improvising, jamming with others, you’ll go much further and deeper if you build upon each contribution with a playful “yes — and” example instead of a deflating “no — but” reply.
Don’t loan money to a friend unless you are ready to make it a gift.
Your passion in life should fit you exactly; but your purpose in life should exceed you. Work for something much larger than yourself.
If you can’t tell what you desperately need, it’s probably sleep.
If you borrow something, try to return it in better shape than you received it. Clean it, sharpen it, fill it up.
Even in the tropics it gets colder at night than you think. Pack warmly.
To quiet a crowd or a drunk, just whisper.
Writing down one thing you are grateful for each day is the cheapest possible therapy ever.
Money is overrated. Truly new things rarely need an abundance of money. If that was so, billionaires would have a monopoly on inventing new things, and they don’t. Instead almost all breakthroughs are made by those who lack money, because they are forced to rely on their passion, persistence and ingenuity to figure out new ways. Being poor is an advantage in innovation.
You are given the gift of life in order to discover what your gift *in* life is. You will complete your mission when you figure out what your mission is. This is not a paradox. This is the way.
Don’t treat people as bad as they are. Treat them as good as you are.
Each time you reach out to people, bring them a blessing; then they’ll be happy to see you when you bring them a problem.
Bad things can happen fast, but almost all good things happen slowly.
Don’t worry how or where you begin. As long as you keep moving, your success will be far from where you start.
You can reduce the annoyance of someone’s stupid belief by increasing your understanding of why they believe it.
If your goal does not have a schedule, it is a dream.
The greatest breakthroughs are missed because they look like hard work.
I have never met a person I admired who did not read more books than I did.
Everything is hard before it is easy. The day before something is a breakthrough, it’s a stupid idea.
When you are stuck, sleep on it. Let your subconscious work for you.
Your work will be endless, but your time is finite. You cannot limit the work so you must limit your time. Hours are the only thing you can manage.
To succeed, get other people to pay you; to become wealthy, help other people to succeed.
This is the best time ever to make something. None of the greatest, coolest creations 20 years from now have been invented yet. You are not late.
Always give credit, take blame.
Be frugal in all things, except in your passions splurge.
The extras serve as backups for mistakes, reduce stress, and fill your inventory for the future. They are the cheapest insurance.
Be nice to your children because they are going to choose your nursing home.
Advice like these are not laws. They are like hats. If one doesn’t fit, try another.
Learn how to learn from those you disagree with, or even offend you. See if you can find the truth in what they believe.
Being enthusiastic is worth 25 IQ points.
Always demand a deadline. A deadline weeds out the extraneous and the ordinary. It prevents you from trying to make it perfect, so you have to make it different. Different is better.
Don’t be afraid to ask a question that may sound stupid because 99% of the time everyone else is thinking of the same question and is too embarrassed to ask it.
Treating a person to a meal never fails, and is so easy to do. It’s powerful with old friends and a great way to make new friends.
Pros are just amateurs who know how to gracefully recover from their mistakes.
Don’t be the smartest person in the room. Hangout with, and learn from, people smarter than yourself. Even better, find smart people who will disagree with you.
Rule of 3 in conversation. To get to the real reason, ask a person to go deeper than what they just said. Then again, and once more. The third time’s answer is close to the truth.
Everyone is shy. Other people are waiting for you to introduce yourself to them, they are waiting for you to send them an email, they are waiting for you to ask them on a date. Go ahead.
Don’t take it personally when someone turns you down. Assume they are like you: busy, occupied, distracted. Try again later. It’s amazing how often a second try works.
Promptness is a sign of respect.
When you are young spend at least 6 months to one year living as poor as you can, owning as little as you possibly can, eating beans and rice in a tiny room or tent, to experience what your “worst” lifestyle might be. That way any time you have to risk something in the future you won’t be afraid of the worst case scenario.
Optimize your generosity. No one on their deathbed has ever regretted giving too much away.
To make something good, just do it. To make something great, just re-do it, re-do it, re-do it. The secret to making fine things is in remaking them.
If you are looking for something in your house, and you finally find it, when you’re done with it, don’t put it back where you found it. Put it back where you first looked for it.
Saving money and investing money are both good habits. Small amounts of money invested regularly for many decades without deliberation is one path to wealth.
You can obsess about serving your customers/audience/clients, or you can obsess about beating the competition. Both work, but of the two, obsessing about your customers will take you further.
Perhaps the most counter-intuitive truth of the universe is that the more you give to others, the more you’ll get. Understanding this is the beginning of wisdom.
Friends are better than money. Almost anything money can do, friends can do better. In so many ways a friend with a boat is better than owning a boat.
Be prepared: When you are 90% done any large project (a house, a film, an event, an app) the rest of the myriad details will take a second 90% to complete.
When you die you take absolutely nothing with you except your reputation.
For every dollar you spend purchasing something substantial, expect to pay a dollar in repairs, maintenance, or disposal by the end of its life.
When you get an invitation to do something in the future, ask yourself: would you accept this if it was scheduled for tomorrow? Not too many promises will pass that immediacy filter.
Don’t say anything about someone in email you would not be comfortable saying to them directly, because eventually they will read it.
If you desperately need a job, you are just another problem for a boss; if you can solve many of the problems the boss has right now, you are hired. To be hired, think like your boss.
Acquiring things will rarely bring you deep satisfaction. But acquiring experiences will.
Rule of 7 in research. You can find out anything if you are willing to go seven levels. If the first source you ask doesn’t know, ask them who you should ask next, and so on down the line. If you are willing to go to the 7th source, you’ll almost always get your answer.
How to apologize: Quickly, specifically, sincerely.
When someone is nasty, rude, hateful, or mean with you, pretend they have a disease. That makes it easier to have empathy toward them which can soften the conflict.
Experience is overrated. When hiring, hire for aptitude, train for skills. Most really amazing or great things are done by people doing them for the first time.
A vacation + a disaster = an adventure.
Buying tools: Start by buying the absolute cheapest tools you can find. Upgrade the ones you use a lot. If you wind up using some tool for a job, buy the very best you can afford.
Following your bliss is a recipe for paralysis if you don’t know what you are passionate about. A better motto for most youth is “master something, anything”. Through mastery of one thing, you can drift towards extensions of that mastery that bring you more joy, and eventually discover where your bliss is.